I don’t agree with everything she said, but here are some parts I do agree with:
There is a certain amount of comfort and confidence that you gain with yourself when you go to this new place and start all over again, and a knowledge that — come what may in the rest of your life — you were capable of taking that leap and landing softly at least once.
One of the reasons I chose to study abroad on a scholarship is because I wanted to see if I could do it. That and because I didn’t wanna work yet. Granted, I chose a country where I had relatives because I wasn’t all that ready to be “independent” and to be totally alone in a foreign country, but still.
But there are the fears. And yes, life has gone on without you. And the longer you stay in your new home, the more profound those changes will become. Holidays, birthdays, weddings — every event that you miss suddenly becomes a tick mark on an endless ream of paper. One day, you simply look back and realize that so much has happened in your absence, that so much has changed.
To live in a new place is a beautiful, thrilling thing, and it can show you that you can be whoever you want — on your own terms. It can give you the gift of freedom, of new beginnings, of curiosity and excitement. But to start over, to get on that plane, doesn’t come without a price. You cannot be in two places at once, and from now on, you will always lay awake on certain nights and think of all the things you’re missing out on back home.
No matter how much I try, it’s not possible to always be in my friends’ lives. There will be moments and memories missed. Things will change, that’s for sure, but I’m just holding on to the fact that my true friends will find ways to keep in touch. I may not be there for the little things (which are of course, as important as the big things), but at least they still try. We still try. This sounds cheesy, but no matter the distance, if your bond is strong, if you’re real friends, the distance shouldn’t matter. More so that we’re living in a technologically advanced world where keeping in touch and communicating with people is sooo convenient.
The only thing permanent in this world is change, right? We don’t have to fear change. We won’t grow if we don’t look for avenues to let ourselves grow, if we don’t step out of our comfort zones. We just have to be confident in the fact that no matter where life takes us, the people who matter the most will be there. Always.